Ink Aria
Countdowns
and Clock-Watching
Renee Gehman
I always
seem to be
waiting for beginnings and ends. Things are never quite satisfactory in
the middle, in the now, where I see things as they are, including their
imperfections or what is missing. I see the potential perfection of
beginnings and ends that lie ahead, which I imagine as holding a beauty
like the world right after a snowfall, before anyone has set foot on
anything.
When
I’m not happy with the present, it becomes little more than a traffic
jam I must endure until I reach my destination. But “Life is a journey,
not a destination,” I’ve heard. Why is it so impossible to live knowing
that sometimes? I mean really
knowing that. That which has yet to
happen often seems so much more important than that which is happening
now. And so I am in Vietnam, having the hugest experience in my life
thus far, and I’m appreciating it, but still, I can’t help but daydream
about the reunions to come in the summer.
Then,
I think, then everything will be okay. Except once I’m home
everything will be okay once I have a job, and once I have a job
everything will be okay once I have a husband, or children, or a
master’s degree, and so on and so forth until the only thing I want to
do before I die is make a return trip to my beloved Vietnam. —January
16, 2007
I
like to read old journal entries to
see how I have changed, but it is also humbling to see how I have not changed
where perhaps
I should have. I had to chuckle when I read that excerpt the other
night, because here I am over two years later, pining for the summer
again, this time as a high school teacher eager for a break. Once
again, I am having a great life adventure (first-year teaching), and
once again, I must admit to counting down the days to its end.
Last night I sat outside with my
laptop to plan lessons, but a young guest at a party next door caught
my eye. It was Alex, whom I’d had in my first class as a child care
teacher after returning from Vietnam. Alex was in the neighbor’s
backyard, throwing a giant Frisbee around by himself while everyone
else ate on the deck. He didn’t bother himself with trying to catch the
thing but rather launched it haphazardly into the air and then ran
around (also haphazardly) and dove upon the ground, synchronizing his
own fall with the Frisbee’s.
From afar I watched him: he was
completely invested in his simple game, oblivious to the smells of
grilled food and the sounds of happy conversation coming from just a
few feet away. He was busy living in this moment.
Eventually I walked over to the fence
and yelled his name. He looked up, his face glowing with that beautiful
mischievous grin, and I said, with mock-accusation, “How come you never
come over to my house to visit?!”
As I spoke he sprinted across the
yard with his arms outstretched for a hug. “I’m FIVE!” he said
excitedly as I lifted him into my arms, making the obligatory
declaration about his increased size.
His mom came over too, told me the
center had hosted the Family Night that week, on Tuesday, and that
beforehand Alex had asked her if she thought I would be there. Last
year I’d chased him around a lot, him and his buddies. I was living in
the moment then too.
Now as I held Alex, he rotated his
arms, displaying for me his various temporary tattoos, mostly featuring
cars. His hair was still as blonde as could be, his cheeks still rosy.
Memories crept up on me. I remembered
once—if I dare tell a story that reflects well on me amid others that
don’t!—his mom had reported to me that he’d told her at home, “Mommy I
just love Miss Renee. Not as much as I love you, but I really love
her.” And I remembered the time we were lined up to go outside at
school when he pointed at a “wet floor” sign by the bathroom and said,
“I can read what that sign says.”
“Oh yeah? What does it say?”
“It says: You cannot come in this
bathroom right now because Mr. George is cleaning it.”
I remembered how he used to get
himself in trouble at nap time. He didn’t want to sleep, so instead of
lying quietly and resting, which was the boring alternative, he would
bounce up and down on his cot or kick his feet as fast as he could in
the air, or throw his stuffed animal up in the air and catch it. Even
when he wasn’t happy with his circumstances, Alex still lived in the
moment.
I appreciate
now the way Alex
continued to make the most of his time, finding ways to have fun even
when it seemed like there was no fun to be had. I suppose he was too
young for staring at the clock and counting down the minutes.
The hardest times are also the
hardest times to live in the moment. And why shouldn’t they be? Why
shouldn’t we look forward to better times when things get tough? It
seems a healthy enough sequence of cause-and-effect to me. Still, Alex
reminds me to discipline my countdowns and clock-watching so I too can
live his in-the-moment joys.
—Renee
Gehman, assistant editor, DreamSeeker
Magazine, and
high school teacher, is
counting down the days until she is better at living in the moment on a
daily basis.
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