EASTER WALK
The
Five Steps of Repentance
Julie Gochenour
Ive been
restless all morning, unsettled and ill
at ease within myself, pushing against
something I poke and prod but refuse to
name. Time for a walk. I head out the
door and take the path through the woods.
In
psychology, congruency is when our
actions, speech, and other behaviors are
consistent with our internal thoughts,
feelings, and beliefs.
In
Christianity, its when all those
thingsour true selfare in
synch with Gods promises. Lent, I
decide, is about our dishonesty and
inconsistency.
Easter
is congruency. Its when we get to
Gods promises.
Im
good at Lent, I tell God irritably.
Easters another story.
In the
woods its barely spring. Most
leaves and buds, like my heart, are shut
tight. It even looks like Lent, Easter
light-years away. I come this way every
daythrough the woods, past the
neighbors Christmas tree farm and
cornfield, across the end of our hayfield
and up the lane to the house. This
morning the sameness allows me to examine
my heart as I walk. By the time I reach
the brush pile, honesty rises up in me.
Clarity follows. I walk with both,
resistance and irritability subsiding.
Just
past the cornfield, I stop. The
disconnect hits me. My entire walk has
been prayer, but this is different. I
suddenly see what Im resisting. I
test it, reaching for Jesus and
Scripture. Yes. The discrepancy is
obvious. Instead of faithfully correct,
Im dead wrong. Where Jesus turns
left in my life, calling me to follow, I
go right, cutting across fields and
ditches to avoid what he asks and
promises. The deception is plain.
Unloving and self-serving, judging others
and persuading myself I dont, I go
my way, not Gods. Then I tell both
of us that just the opposite is true.
Worse, I pretend to believe it. Now what?
Standing
there, seeing myself as I am, I pray for
forgiveness. And repentance. I need both.
A crow flies across the unplowed field,
cawing. I listen. What I really want is
to turn around and come home. Not just
turn and face God again, but run toward
him and all he promises, shaking off
incongruency and leaving it behind. But
how? How do I move from remorse and
repentance to transformation of heart,
life, and actions? Given my resistance
and deception, how can I possibly think
Ill let God change me?
The
answer is the five steps of repentance.
These steps are how we move from Lent to
Easter, how we change from who we are to
the person God calls us to be.
Darn
it, I tell myself, looking at the
empty field beside me, the gravel tracks
below. Now Ive got to change.
So much for trying to make Gary do what I
want. So much for thinking I know
whats best. There goes my new
kitchen too.
Come,
little one, Jesus says, and I reach
for his hand.
Step
1: Repent of what youve done.
Im wrong, Lord. Im angry and
refuse to admit it. Despite my best
intentions, I continue to deny my
brokenness and put appearance before
reality. I use others to meet my wants
and needs. Beneath my veneer of niceness
and religiosity is something else
entirely.
Step
2: Repent of being God in your own life.
I insist on my own way and do my best to
get it. I put myself at the center. I
rely on my skills, attitude, efforts, not
your promises. I set the agenda, not you.
Even in church and meeting, I jockey for
status and position. I practice
self-condemnation, usurping Jesus
role as the judge of my life.
Step
3: Take both of these to the foot
of the cross and leave them there.
Thats hard, Lord. Its hard to
let go of my screw-ups and the camouflage
they give me. Its even harder to
stop beating myself up and recognize
Im forgiven. The hardest of all is
to accept grace and go from there. When I
do, Im free. When I dont,
Im not. I go right back to the
past. Nothing ever changes. You still
love me, but its not where you want
me to be.
Step
4: Ask God to give you a new vision.
What do you want, Lord? Im ready to
find out. Im ready to accept your
vision, not mine. Im ready to
consider a new lifethe way I must
act, be, and believe in order to become
the person you desire and created me to
be.
Step
5: Go for it! So this is where Lent
ends, Lord. This is where Easter begins,
where I live out your Easter promises one
concrete choice and decision at a time.
I pray.
Then, slowly, the sound of traffic on the
paved road a quarter mile away brings me
back to my surroundings. I resume my
walk, Jesus beside me. My world still
looks more like winter than spring, but
not for long.
Julie
Gochenour, member, Religious Society of
Friends, is completing her M.A.R. She and
husband Gary live on the family farm in
Maurertown, Virginia
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