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Mark R. Wenger
I“Really,
Michael King, Really”
A
Conversation
with a Mennonite Unbeliever Michael
A. King
After The Mennonite (Feb. 3, 2009) published my column on “Will
You Hold Me as I Held You?” it was reprinted in DreamSeeker Magazine (Spring 2009). Between both outlets, that
column generated more than average response, but none more substantial
than those from a reader who turned out to be a Mennonite no longer
able to believe in God. I found his feedback moving, provocative, and
worth pondering.
In the midst of
that
conversation arrived an article by atheist Alan Soffin (now printed
after this one). Add to all this the fact that I myself have long
wrestled with how we confront life’s shadows yet maintain faith in God
(wrestling from which “Hold Me” emerged), and I became convinced that
others might value the opportunity to experience the candid engagements
of my unbelieving friend with issues of faith and doubt.
Thus with his
permission—but
with the understanding he shall remain anonymous—I share below our
exchange of letters, one from him, then my response, and finally one
more from him to me plus a copy of a letter he sent to a friend. The
letters are reproduced as written except for light editing to fit
Cascadia style, to trim away occasional wording, or to mask
Anonymous.
Dear
Michael King,
You have, in your
“Will You
Hold Me As I Held You” portrayed so eloquently, so very eloquently the
mystery and the paradox of human existence. Magnificent. I have read it
three or four times in the last three or four days.
After years of
living here and
living there, of considerable travel, of reading and studying too much
in the sage of Western civilization, of shoveling dirt and grass on my
parents graves in a futile effort to gain closure, and now watching and
holding and playing with new grass—two grandkids—and contemplating my
own final withering—-well, your words, your language, your expressions,
were as if out of my own well.
However, I am
surprised that The
Mennonite printed your article. Although
most beautifully written and expressed, it is at heart a very
depressing consideration of the ultimate meaning (or non-meaning) of
life. The one factor that allowed The
Mennonite to devote a page to
your inspiration is your occasional reference to “God,” the “grass that
fadeth not and that shall endure forever” and the corresponding final
reference to the “love of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting.”
Come now, Michael
King, what if
there is no God? What if there is no “love of the Lord from everlasting
to everlasting?” Despite how often we repeat the phrase and hope
against hope that such a reality is not just more grass? What in our
“experience” testifies to those “truths” as eloquently as our
“experience” testifies to the “grass” metaphor?
And perhaps the
most major
question of your article. . . . What difference in the final analysis
would a “God” make, would the “love of a Lord from everlasting to
everlasting make”?? Would such a “God” and such a “love” make the grass
which now withereth, flourish again? Does the repetition of those
phrases fulfill our deepest need to believe “it just ain’t so”? Is
“God” and the “love” merely an extremely powerful antidote to the
illusion?
Your entire article
is based on
experience, the ultimate arbiter of reality. All who read it will
immediately identify. The separation will occur in your reference to
“God” to “his hands” to his everlasting love . . . really, Michael
King, which fork do you really take? Really . . .
Sincerely yours,
Anonymous D
Dear Anonymous:
Many thanks for
your
provocative response to my “Will You Hold Me” column.
I find your
thoughts quite
insightful and thought-provoking. I’m not sure to what extent you might
see them as affirming versus critical, but I myself experience them as
accurately aimed except that maybe (though I’m not sure, since I’m not
positive what your own thinking here is) I arrive at a slightly
different destination while taking much the same path you seem to be
pointing toward.
To elaborate: You
seem to be
highlighting the possibility that God is tacked on to a perspective
that finally implies non-meaning/non-God. I don’t really disagree. I
intended to push pretty hard on the bleak end of things. I believe
Mennonites/Christians tend to be far too quick to offer pious faith
statements without confronting the data that seems to call for
different conclusions, and my column reflects that, as you rightly
discern. I found, in fact, that I was still not quite done going that
route when my most recent column came due. See what you think of my
continuation of the theme when it appears in The Mennonite June 2
[and in DreamSeeker Magazine Summer 2009].
Where it’s possible
we arrive
at a different destination is that—as perhaps my forthcoming column
elaborates—I don’t see confronting the difficulty of integrating God
with our more troubling experiences as thereby invalidating the
possibility of God. So for me to include God in the column was not
simply to tack on an antidote for an illusion but to long for God to be
more than illusion.
Am I sure about
this? No.
That’s why the column does in fact keep God at some distance. I don’t
want God in there too quickly making everything fine. It’s not fine a
lot of the time. One Mennonite scholar sent an e-mail describing
himself as “a 90-year old, wondering how someone as much younger than I
am as you are, can understand the elderly plight that well.” Something
like that was what I was trying to get at. Getting God integrally into
that is a hard-won challenge, and probably one thing you perceptively
pick up on in my column is that I’m not sure how to do it, even as I
think it’s worth the quest.
Question: the “Hold
Me” column
is reprinted in DreamSeeker
Magazine,
which I edit. I think your letter would make an excellent response
piece. How would you feel about having it published?
Thanks again for
taking the
time to respond so thoughtfully and carefully, Anonymous.
Dear
Michael King,
To begin with, may
I again
identify the beauty of your expression in “Will You Hold Me?” Very very
well done. I loved it . . . and certainly identified with your
questions. . . .
Now to continue, of
course, you
can use my response as you see fit. But without using my name. I have
an inordinate fear of revealing how very secular my thought has
become—in lieu of my early experience where every kind of doubt or
deviation was a certain sign to damnation and worthy of hell-fire.
And even among my
friends here
in the Midwest, doubts and secular thoughts are not condemned, just
merely written off as irrelevant. And being 75 is already being
sufficiently irrelevant!! And so I am very cautious in opening up or
revealing any thought bordering on unorthodoxy. I have no need of
looking for unnecessary trouble. It would be the theological version of
“coming out.”
So upon reading
today your May
13 letter—I had to chuckle how well I had camouflaged my real
intent!!!! But your “suspicions” were well-founded—they are real!!
Right on!!
But even in your
May 13 letter,
you continue to use the word God. Precisely. what does your use
of this or these letters—g-o-d—mean? Suppose there is a “God.” What
does he-she-it do? What does he-she-it bring to the table, to the
conversation? That has relevance for you, for me? What are we looking
for, searching for that thing, to which this g-o-d somehow seems to be
the answer? Why do you have a need to talk about “God” and what “good”
enters your life if and when you do so?
When I have a bolt
without a
nut, the bolt is useless. Without relevance, without meaning. So I look
for a device, a nut, a special nut that will fit the bolt thread and
thereby make the bolt relevant, meaningful, helpful. What does this
so-called “God” do? Is he something like the above “nut”? I think we
know what our problem is (we do?) and so just how does that “thing”
that “being” supply the answer as the “nut” does for the “bolt.”
I confess, I am at
a loss (a
total loss) when I hear people use that word because there is nothing
in my experience that bridges epistemologically the gap between “me”
and “that thing out there or in here or wherever, whatever it is, is.”
I give up. I just roll my eyes and exit the field of discussion!! Maybe we should again read
“Waiting for Godot” by Samuel Beckett? Have you? Yes, I am certainly waiting for
your writing delving further into the “problem”—the “guest”—the
“search.”
Sincerely yours,
Anonymous.
Dear
Friend of Anonymous,
I owe you a very
appreciative
and grateful “thank you” for calling this evening—and the small group
an apology for not being “present” on Wednesday evenings. The least I
can do and should have done is to explain (not excuse) my absence.
The same should be
said about
my absence from Midwest Congregation. So here goes. . . .
I just don’t find
Midwest
Congregation intellectually challenging. I used to come because it was
very interesting to observe how so-called “religious” folk conduct
themselves in what is their once-a-week religious ritual. I finally got
bored with the Sunday morning “verbal displays” (called sermons,
teachings, etc.) and the lack of intellectual honesty (as I perceived
it) in the ensuing discussions.
And I have to
admit—I find the
10:30 Sunday morning CBS Schieffer program and especially the 11:00 NBC
“Meet the Press” with Gregory so much more exciting and stimulating.
Real problems, real subjects . . . pro and con, give and take. I love
it.
But also, I loved
(and admire)
the article in The Mennonite
by Michael King on
“Will You
Hold Me . . . ” and so I wrote him a letter asking questions (which I
thought pertinent!) on his article. Our dialogue was rather
interesting.
I miss, I need, I
love that
kind of interaction. It really begins with experiencing myself as a
mystery, even to myself. And to then viewing all those other homo
sapiens on two legs wandering to and fro in the same fog (the mystery
of life) as I am and wondering what exactly is constitutive of their
mystery. . . . Who are they? I? We? What’s going on here?
In conclusion, I
just read the
June 8 Newsweek,
page 30, on “Let’s talk about
God,” and as I told you, I asked [name deleted] to order Terry
Eagleton’s Reason, Faith,
and Revolution: Reflections on the God Debate and Robert
Wright’s The Evolution of
God. I become very excited
(inwardly agitated!) when I read such articles and can hardly wait
until those books arrive. It’s almost like an intellectual and
spiritual orgasm . . . they speak to my innermost needs and questions.
On the other hand
(on the other
side of me!), this coming Sunday (and the following Sundays), I’m going
to Midwest Town to sing in the “Old Rugged Cross” Church
the “old-fashioned” gospel songs—the ones I grew up with—the ones whose
theology is now as far from me as day is from night—but the ones who
also exert a tremendous hold on my emotional life. I used to be the
pianist in our church . . . and that included the men’s chorus, the revival meetings,
altar calls, etc., etc.—you name it.
They became so
deeply ingrained
in my psyche that to “cast them out” of my mind (to have them
“exorcised”) would leave me at the age of 76 rather emotionally barren,
destitute, a shell. I so much look forward to singing them—but only
with an ample supply of Kleenex on hand.
I hope you will
understand.
It’s a world I no longer occupy and find impossible to return to. I
often ask myself, in introspective moments, where and when and how did
this journey happen? Who was the one who opened and cleared such a path
and that therefore, according to the Good Book, should be cast into the
lake of fire?? What a mystery! Hence the fog in which I wander!
Sincerely,
Anonymous
—Michael
A. King, Telford,
Pennsylvania, is publisher, Cascadia Publishing House LLC; editor,DreamSeeker Magazine; and a pastor and speaker.His
unbelieving Mennonite friend’s history includes the post-World War II
Mennonite service experiences in Europe through which he saw
the ravages of war, including the Holocaust, and found it difficult
indeed to square such experiences with God.
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